Friday, April 29, 2011

All By Myself

On Wednesday, MR text me mid-day to ask, "Do we have plans Friday?"
I quickly responded with "No. Why?"
Did he make plans for us?  Did friends ask us to do something?  I waited for his answer...
"Phil & Kevin want to go see a movie."
It is very rare that MR and I spend our nights apart and while most times that we make separate plans, my first thought is "I am going to miss him."... this time was different.
A wash of giddy came over me.  No, I wasn't daydreaming of a girls night or an evening of taking my sweet time shopping.   
I was genuinely excited at the thought of having a night of absolutely nothing to do & no one to do it with.
Oftentimes I think we forget that the most important relationship one can have, after your relationship with God(whatever God that may be for you), is the relationship with oneself.
It took me a very long time to learn that.  It is one of the most important things I have ever learned, actually.
 Have yourself a little party.

Learn that there is a difference between alone and lonely.
Make time for your favorite jammies.
So when five oclock rolls around, I will change into my yoga pants & a tank.
I will order out.
I will watch a chick flick.
I will paint my nails.  Or craft.  Or read. Or have a Lacey only dance party.
I will enjoy myself.
When's the last time you carved out an evening just for you?
Make a date with yourself soon, okay?
You will thank me.
I promise.

13 love notes:

  1. I could not agree more! I recently learned how to have a better relationship with myself and love myself. I took me way to long to realize my happiness is in my hands and not the hands of others! Enjoy your evening :)

  2. I've had those nights the past four nights, and I've loved having them. Sure, we miss our loves and our friends, but I know I definitely need that time to myself to recharge. Enjoy your Lacey night!

  3. I'm having a whole weekend of me time!! I'm sending the husband to visit a friend downstate all weekend!!!

  4. I absolutely crave alone time. It's essential for me to feel balanced!

  5. great lesson - it's so important to realize that that time by yourself is really necessary.

  6. Amen, Sista!!
    I enjoy the occasional night off to do nothing as well.
    Have a blast!

  7. Sounds like a stellar plan to me!

  8. oh my goodness.. i love when i get unexpected nights to myself. don't get me wrong, i love spending my nights with nick and/or my family & friends.. but when something comes up and nick is tied up and i can relax with no obligations. bliss. pure bliss.

    enjoy yourself :D

  9.'s been years. Considering I am a mom and my daughter is a "mama's girl", those days are rare and few.

    Hope you enjoyed yourself!!

  10. very nice, very nice. I need to work on the opposite; arriving at a place where I can share my time with somebody because I guard my alone time so much!

  11. It has been far too long, friend. But, I did get lost in a book, if only for awhile, this weekend. And it was delightful.

  12. Chinese, a chick flick, comfy clothes....BEST EVER!

  13. What a great post! I can totally relate to this.


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